REASON FOR LOSING WEIGHT 1: To be considered
What do I mean by that? I mean to be honestly considered – by men, by colleagues, for jobs etc. If you don’t like me, don’t like my skills or accomplishments, then that’s fine. But let that be the reason for not dating me, for not interviewing or hiring me and not my weight. Not the facade that you see before you, not my fat, not what it represents to you.
To deny that our society does not judge by appearances or make assumptions is idealistic, foolhardy, and naive. We all make split-second judgments based on physical appearance – from weight to hair colour to personal hygiene. Most are innocuous. But some are not.
I wanted to lose weight because I didn’t want my body to stop me. I wanted to be considered: as a partner by men, I wanted to be able to go into job interviews or when networking and not let my body “talk” to the other person before I could. That is the truth. It is not pretty. And we, as humans, are by no means perfect or non-judgmental. We like to categorize and we respond to aesthetics – our brains are built that way. I wanted to lose weight to fit into what we consider the “norm” so that my weight did not stop me from success – be it personal or professional. I have no proof either way that it did or didn’t, but I wanted to remove the variable.